SAN DIEGO, May 15, 2018 (GLOBE NEWSWIRE) -- Good recovery is characterized by recognition of the drug problem and a commitment to abstinence. The best vehicle is a twelve-step program from TheRecover.com’s partner Rehabs in Los Angeles. These can be found in almost any community in the USA today. Remember you can't get him or her sober. The shift in thinking has to be to provide support but let him/her benefit from others' successful recovery. You will see the change in your loved one as you change and begin to develop via meetings and involvement in program of recovery. As families, we are committed to helping our own. When drugs are involved the rules change. We have to allow them to get out of denial, a long process to accomplish fully, and then heal and become redirected. The damage done by the drugs usually affected all areas, mental, emotional, physical, family, relationships, legal, career, and financial to some point. It may take quite a bit of time to see this once the person is abstinent.
It will take time to get on a spiritual path and this is usually a path that is the opposite of the former path - the drug path. Your loved one will have a civil war going on with conflicting drives to both stay clean and recover and also go back to using. Accompanying this are triggers, cravings and peer pressure within a drug society. You may hope beyond hope and not see the return to using because you desperately want to see him or her be successful. Your attendance will keep you out of denial and help you to cope with your pain. You and the family are up against a unified force and must be equally unified. You can lead the way but you can't force anyone to get clean and sober. Choose your battles. Don't try to change every behavior all at once. Let the person get into good enough recover and with motivated peers in recovery so that his/her motivation will come back.
You have to tolerate behaviors that are almost unacceptable and realize that he/she will make better decisions eventually if you model good sense, tolerance and patience with him or her. A good foundation is necessary to continued recover. This involves a simple yet clear approach from the parents or spouses. Enforce consequences, let them/encourage them to attend recovery meetings - the most important being NA. You can tell if your child/spouse is progressing when the family is attending their meetings and they can communicate with you, is drug free as seen from a urinalysis, wants to attend NA, has recovering friends, has the recovery books (AA's Big Book, NA's Text...) and reads the literature, attends recovery functions and talks recovery. The old behaviors mean that he or she is probably using - sneaking out, having a consistent sarcastic, angry attitude, not caring, legal problems, lying... Realize that there is a three-year period that must pass and that will let you know they are on the right path. This is enough time to turn things around and develop the thinking and habits that will maximize the chances for continued good recovery. It's not about abstinence only. Good actions and a positive lifestyle characterize good recovery, being family and community oriented and spiritually fit. This is also true for the family.
You can lead your child/spouse to this level of recovery. You can't do it for him or her. One of the greatest benefits of NARanon is to realize that you can't control him/her but you can love them. The need for control is strong in most human beings, especially when things are so out of control. This does not mean that you have to be out of control. Learn what you can control and what you can't.
Twelve-step meetings help us to cope with the powerlessness when we see relapse or seeming failure. Watch that you don't act out on this anger, disappointment or feelings that you have failed. Remember that recovery is a process and takes time. The key is to be strong and enforce some clear and simple rules (always go back to this model) when behavior returns to drug behavior. Avoid the position that you have to do instruct, nag, preach, become preoccupied, be right or have the last word. Target only three behaviors (rules) and enforce these all the way. Let the other issues go unless they are life threatening. Remember that dramatics are part of the family dynamic. Try to minimize this. That mind set is too controlling. This takes a team effort. Strengthen your team.
However, you can do it with him or her. This means going to your twelve-step meetings and leading the way to higher development, not in the sense of "fixing" them but to resolve your pain - the disappointment, anger at the teen and your spouse or other children or in-laws... The answer lies in family recovery. Be strong and confident enough to realize the feelings that have accumulated and be committed to heal. Follow a twelve-step path because it was designed for you for this purpose. Try/commit to the path that has worked for hundreds of thousands. All of those people can't be wrong. You are your family's role model. Model common sense and good recovery.
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Author: Kevin Leonard
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